Solitude - a part of single living - How do I embrace it?
It's only fair I answer the question I posed to 100 singles prior to writing Blissfully Single. In keeping with the idea of positive psychology, looking through a positive lens at the world, this was a point of view to encourage a positive answer.
As I read my book, a Nevada Barr mystery, I felt pretty smug about being able read it straight through without interuption. I was nearly at the end of the book without any guilt. I thought to myself, this is really embracing solitude. I was indulging myself in a way that I don't often do, but I can!
And then I looked out the window as I was celebrating my reading binge and saw this beautiful sight. The maple leaves are bright green, fresh spring growth and well watered from the recent rains. My treehouse view puts me at the top of these five maple trees along with cedar trees and alders that temporarily cover up my winter view of Lookout Mountain. I could sit and look at this view all day, seeing the leaves gently waving and occasionally spotting a visitor, a squirrel or a stellar jay perhaps.
And it was so quiet. Impressively so. I love that I have control of the noise volume in my home. If I want, I can click on my Sound app and get music of my choice from my wireless Bose speaker. I could even play pop songs on my keyboard at any time of day or night, although my cats would rather I didn't.. they have sensitive ears.
Or just like now, I can sit in silence and see those gently waving leaves lull me into a quiet meditative mindful moment. I can hear birds singing the last song of their day. I can just sit without needing to do anything or listen to anything or not listen to anything.
I can just be.
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